Beyond ‘Me First’ Unexpectedly, there is a raft of new books on the value of marriage and how it produces not only more happiness, but impressive generativity, meaning, and contribution to the next generation and our society as a whole. This is not the message we are used to hearing from academia, the media, and […]
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Navigating the Journey of Relationship Growth I am a senior by today’s standards, but not yet old. I have lived long enough to realize how much we grow in our adult years. It is not the same development we experienced in our twenties, thirties, and even forties when we were focused on establishing a career
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Sharing Your Feelings Without Anger Anger can be a problem. The challenge is that it is inevitable in a romantic relationship, in any relationship, actually, but our concern here is for your romantic partnership. Most of us don’t know that anger is not a primary feeling, and as a result, what we say when we feel angry complicates
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Lessons from Generations How My Mother’s Dating Wisdom Led to a Successful Engagement One of my clients came to her session last Thursday night and announced that our project of getting her engaged was officially successful. She joyfully showed off her beautiful ring and told me all the details. She reminded me that it took
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Finding Your Life’s Direction A Story of Passion, Purpose, and the Search for the Right Partner I sat down to meet with a father and son recently. The father’s concern was that his nineteen-year-old son was not socializing with his peers. They are an immigrant family who have been in the U.S. for most of
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Mastering the Three Essential Relationship Skills Michael and I have been teaching couples for over thirty-five years now. There is a lot to learn about staying connected and growing together as well as individually throughout the lifespan. We talk about the big picture: how our focus and values evolve over time and the skills we
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Defining Love: How Boundaries Strengthen Relationships I saw a couple this week who inspired this newsletter. They are in love, honest, and have differences that need negotiation. They present a tough issue that requires deep personal reflection about what is important and what can be compromised without damaging the bond of love for the partner
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An Old Tale for a New Era Marriage has never been easy, but in the current culture of equality, gender and role fluidity, romantic relationships may be even more strained. Yet, the fundamentals of navigating a relationship to fulfill the promise of a loving marriage has not changed. The key to satisfying the desire for
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There is more to say about the middle-aged couple who could not hear each other. You might recall that the wife was trying to invite her husband to grow their emotional connection. She didn’t say that exactly in those words. She said other words that were vague and implied there was something wrong with the
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I have been working with a couple for the last few weeks who beautifully illustrate the opportunities of a long-term marriage. I want you to hear about them because they could be a version of your marriage. They are quintessentially a man and a woman with a midlife struggle, which means it is not enough
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